Hi Sandhya,
I have a 27 year-old friend and we have been very close since the past six years. I’ve known her well enough to understand that she is not a very confident person and finds it difficult to ‘be herself’ among people. We’ve had a couple of conversations wherein she admitted that she feels self-conscious even among people she knows well. I understand her dilemmas well, but I find myself getting irritated to see her having no opinions of her own when we meet friends. She gives in to anything - rather, everything - right from what to eat, what she felt about a recent event, just about everything. I almost don’t recognise her. It freaks me out. I wouldn’t be telling her anything new even if I did point this out in a candid conversation — she knows it, but seems unable to get a grip over things. I don’t want to hurt her or corner her. How should I take this ahead?