Nupur Mahajan Column: The Secret (ours)

Some of us are hardcoded positive mdash we function on the belief that no matter how many members throng the CCI we will find a parking slot That too in the main foyerhellip and we do Run dangerously late for that early morning flight and even as the driver protests rest assured and make it You operate on bestcase scenario and more often than not it unfolds such And when it doesnt rarely you grant it not more than a shrug For you are programmed to register the good Deviations if noted merely reinforce the belief in the larger goodIn your mind the universe conspires complies with you and never mind what it brings forth mdash most often in compliance with your plans mdash you go with the flow certain that it flows your way No itrsquos not a defense mechanism not sour grapes and not the happy Pollyanna mdash the glad syndrome where you live in a fantasy that life will always have a happy ending Where you oversimplify everything and forceread it happy No You are not in denial Therersquos no lurking sorrow that you stash under your satin comforter called DenialHappiness is not a security blanket Happiness is rooted in reality And happiness is different from pleasure Pleasure is fleeting externally harvested as it is You could well be surrounded by pleasure fast cars and fat paycheques and yet experience no joy Meanwhile happiness mdash inner joy mdash comes from within and defies the external No it is not superficial a happy filter but your core And it is born of positivity Positive folk are neither optimistic nor pessimistic they are but believers Adversity is lifersquos sum and substance and this admittance doesnrsquot dampen their belief Nay positive spiritPositivity is blessedness It is empowerment born of a certain connectedness with the Divine You do and leave the outcome to Him with the belief that what life serves up is well deserved and fair You are at peace with your limitation of being merely doers That the outcome rests with Him you find not limiting but reassuring Sometimes it is harsh and breaks you You let it you shatter you fall and you cry And it is belief that gets you to stand up again and believe that you must go on That you will go farhellip Farther stillYes we are an aberration Perhaps But no they cannot shroud us in psychobabble that validates their misery If anything they can join rank and wersquore happy to let them in Only there is no tutorial on positivity Itrsquos innate You have it or you donrsquot The bereft need indoctrinate it For happiness is an act of choice Your willI have willfully not corrected a certain chink long detected Despite reasonable recall I never retain an unpleasant exchange Be it in person personal and hurtful or even on television distant but disturbing Therersquos no denial or even selective retention itrsquos involuntary The pain registers and one takes corrective action but the import of the occurrence the harshness and negativity mitigates One cannot revisit and relive it Seemingly absurd but pain is the sweetest addiction Even as it corrodes we hold on to our pain and revisit it for its familiarity Confident that such trips reaffirm our endurance even as they actually reinforce our victimisationThe naysayers are never bereft of wisdomsupply but is there a secret for us the shiny happy peopleWhen grateful acknowledgement blessedness and selfbelief turn arrogance one doesnrsquot realise The association is offensive and arrogance an ugly word mdash yet it is the plague of the happy tribe Its unobtrusiveness for arrogance comes with acquired riches and blessedness your core is what gets it to creep in Your Midas touch starts to make you brazen Ups your risktaking ability That He is your charioteer makes you feel invincible Bullishly unapologetic ldquoNothing wrong can happen to merdquo you believe You are unafraid mdash but arrogantly so Therersquos that certain selfassured hubris and not humility Stop Therersquos no place for arrogance never mind unintentional in your repertoireStrike that impossible balance Retain the belief and that aura of victory remain determined and undiscouraged mdash entertain no doubt mdash and yet know at every moment of this willful existence that you are but an instrument of His will Your positivity no matter innate is a blessing Be ever thankful assume nothing and retain fear No walking to Siddhivinyak on Tuesday will not do the trick Thatrsquos tokenism mdash pardon the harsh dismissal For blessedness and consequentially humbleness and gratefulness is not a Tuesday sentimentThat is unless you find parking only on TuesdaysNupur Mahajan is a sum of many parts Ideas are her business even as her creative streak sees her straddle television advertising publishing radio and brands Reach her at nupurmahajanicloudcom