Of friendships that colonise time
Updated On: 28 June, 2019 12:00 AM IST | | Rosalyn DMello | Rosalyn DMello
Friends are people who sometimes colonise your time. It-s not unwelcome, but sometimes it is the consequence of insistence

The best friendships are inevitably the ones in which we take the other person somewhat for granted, in which we feel entitled to their love, attention, and devotion, in which we dont think twice about imposing, about inviting ourselves over, even if we s
The day has become unexpectedly peopled. It is as if I am making up for all the lost time with my friends in Delhi. I tricked myself into believing that it was Mona I missed the most, whom I absolutely couldn-t do without, yet, here I am, back in Delhi, unable to repress the eagerness with which I am re-encountering my friends. Their energy replenishes me. I wasn-t starving, but I didn-t truly acknowledge enough how, in my 45-day absence, I had begun to hunger for the intimacies I had evolved over almost a decade, preoccupied as I was with laying claim to my fiancé-s home town of Tramin, planting my flag there in order to stake belonging.
The Paris Review has a section called -One Word-, for which, as the title suggests, they invite select writers to meditate upon precisely one word. Were I ever to be asked, I feel sure I would choose the word, -to colonise-. It-s an infinitive that got assimilated into my vocabulary subconsciously and now articulates itself in a manner that is astonishingly casual, despite its hierarchical undertones.
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