It’s not easy being the wife of a superstar athlete, as NBA legend LeBron James’s wife Savannah can attest to. Amidst the glitz and glamour off the court, it’s necessary to remain grounded and one piece of advice Savannah would give to her younger self is to not forget about her own individuality. In a recent episode of the Question Everything podcast, she said: “Something that I didn’t do earlier that I wish I would have done is to pay attention to yourself as much as you’re paying attention to your partner. Don’t lose yourself in all the things. Don’t lose yourself in the facade of what all of this looks like. Try to stay grounded.”

LeBron and Savannah were began dating in 2002 and have been married for 13 years.