Friend’s husband is a troublemaker

I am tired of dealing with my friend’s husband because he is manipulative and pretends to be someone he is not. She and I have been friends since college and she got married a year ago, which is when problems began to appear. She no longer trusts me or calls me as often as she used to, and I am sure it’s because her husband knows I don’t like him. I tried my best and did everything possible to be a supportive friend, but he just didn’t appreciate the fact that his wife and I were so close. It’s sad that this rift between us has only grown wider, but I don’t think I have done anything to cause it. My friend is probably okay with us drifting apart, which I am told is common when people marry, but I wish there was something I could do to fix this before it is too late. Should I apologise to them both even though I have done nothing wrong?
It sometimes takes distance for people to start appreciating what they have had. It’s not uncommon for people to start prioritising their partners over friends after marriage, but the smart ones manage to separate the two and recognise the importance of both. This has not happened to your friend yet, and if her husband is insecure, it may take her time to see things differently. You have nothing to apologise for if you believe you have done nothing wrong. If there is a rift, all you can do is tell your friend that you are there for her and happy to speak whenever she needs someone. After that, stepping away may be the best thing to do because it may allow her to see this situation more clearly. If her husband is possessive, or has problems with his wife’s friends, it may take your absence to allow her to see things from another perspective. Stay in touch, but don’t force a relationship because that may only push her away further.

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