Why is it so hard to find true love?

Why is it so hard to find someone who will give you love in an unconditional manner without wanting something from you all the time? Every girl I have dated in the past two years has been unfulfilling and just wasted my time by dating without giving me any real emotional support. It’s just dinners at restaurants and movies, but no connection based on understanding each other. I am so put off by the whole idea of trying to connect in a real way that I have begun to have only casual relationships. I turn 30 in six months and worry that I may not have a solid partner who wants a lifelong commitment. Where am I going wrong?
While it may be true that the people you have been dating aren’t offering you any emotional support, you aren’t considering whether you have been giving them what they want. If there is a mismatch in expectations when it comes to any relationship, the onus must lie on both partners because it takes two people to make anything work. Reach out to the girls you have dated, ask them if they are comfortable talking about these relationships, and why they think things didn’t work. Sometimes, listening to people and accepting that our perspectives are different can lead to real change. It may also be a good idea to change how you approach dating and start by acknowledging that it takes time for people to commit to a long-term relationship. Put in the work, accept that this isn’t something that can be done overnight, and take time to get to know someone. One more aspect to focus on is communication, because when you mention a lack of emotional support, it’s possible that you aren’t being clear about what this means for you. Relationships evolve when partners talk about what they want, and what isn’t happening. Try being more open about what you need and give the other person a chance to try and change how they approach the relationship too. 

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