This mantra was drilled in our heads as kids. If you don’t try, how will you achieve your objectives? The advice is sound and can be implemented for physical and intellectual goals like weight loss or promotions. But when it comes to matters of the heart, trying, again and again, is as painful as walking barefoot on a stony path. Why be a sadist and keeping walking until your blistered feet bleed?

In last week’s column, I covered the ‘How’— fears that one has to overcome when it comes it finding love for the second time. This week I will tackle the ‘Why’— is it even worth the pain? Why should one bother to find love again?