Am so afraid of losing her...

I don’t know if this is a good thing to say, but it has been on my mind for a few weeks. I am a 21-year-old guy and have been dating a girl who is 19. She is going away for further studies soon and my worry is that she will either forget about me or decide that managing a relationship is too much trouble. I love her a lot and want to commit to a lifelong relationship, which is why this is giving me sleepless nights. I know it’s too early to think about marriage, but should I tell her how I feel just to make her more secure and remind her that this is a relationship worth saving? There are no problems between us, and I don’t have reasons to believe she will cheat on me; it’s just the unpredictability of new circumstances that makes me panic. She is leaving in two months, and I don’t know what to do.
That cliché about letting people go may sound trite, but it’s worth keeping in mind because your girlfriend is an individual with a life of her own. We all want to hold on to people we love, but relationships are a two-way street, and anything can make either of you change your mind about a future together. You’re right about this being too soon to think about marriage, given that her priorities appear to be different at the moment. If you want to strengthen your relationship, the 
way to do it is by offering unconditional support, because that says a lot more about how you feel than words can. If she believes you have her best interests at heart, and that you care about her and trust her, there should be no cause for concern when it comes to what happens after she moves away. Trust is critical for how this relationship evolves, so if you can focus on that aspect of it instead of worrying about the worst possible scenario, things should be fine.

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