Friend is slowly distancing herself

This is not a problem as much as it is a situation I don’t fully understand. My best friend and I have been together since school, then college, and through our working lives. We have shared everything and have no secrets. Over the past few months, however, I get the feeling that she is slowly distancing herself from me for reasons that aren’t clear. She doesn’t say anything or tell me that she’s upset with me or that she disagrees with me on something, but I sense it. There is a hostility that was never there before and although this breaks my heart, it also worries me because I don’t know if this is because she is going through something I know nothing about. I don’t know if it’s a relationship with someone that is causing her to be this way, or if there is some imagined insult or slight that I have no knowledge of, but it’s hard to see what’s happening to our friendship because she doesn’t even acknowledge that something isn’t right. I am afraid I will lose her if I don’t do something, but I don’t know what to do if she won’t even tell me that there is a problem.
You’re right about not being able to do anything without her cooperation because friendship, like any relationship, requires two people to work together. It’s obvious that she’s dealing with something she isn’t capable or willing to share, which is fine because we all tend to change as we grow older. What’s important is for her to realize what you mean to her, and why your friendship is important. I suggest you tell her that you’re willing to wait until she is ready to talk and give her some space to figure out what’s bothering her. It’s possible that you may drift apart for a while, because these things happen despite our best intentions, but it’s also possible that distance will enable her to look at things from another perspective and re-evaluate her priorities.

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