He hasn’t told his friends about us

I ended a relationship a year ago and then got back with my ex. It has been four months since we decided to give it another chance, and I just found out that he hasn’t told anyone about this yet. His family and friends have no idea that I am back in his life, and he says it is because they will not be happy. We had a bad break-up, so I understand why they wouldn’t like this update, but I also think it’s strange that he can’t stand up and acknowledge that this decision was made by both of us. My friends think it’s a bad idea too but are supportive of it because they believe in me and trust me to make the right decision. If his friends can’t extend that same courtesy to me, should I even try making this work?
You’re right to feel this way because it isn’t fair, but it is something your partner has to resolve after acknowledging your feelings. This may not be easy, but it can’t be swept under the rug either. Tell your partner why this seems unfair and consider meeting his family or friends if that may help them ease into this situation. If it doesn’t make them any friendlier, this isn’t your battle, and your partner should find a way to be more supportive until things change. As for whether this is reason enough to not try and make your relationship work, ask yourself if his friends or family matter as much as your relationship and his presence in your life.

A few weeks ago, someone I really like told me he wanted to be more than friends. I told him I needed time to consider this, but he slowly began distancing himself after that conversation and it feels as if he has changed his mind. I am confused and don’t know what to do.
You can ask him about this directly, or assume he is as confused as you are. Either way, you lose nothing.