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I have never had any sexual urges

Updated on: 03 February,2024 03:08 AM IST  |  Mumbai
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Relationships involve two people, and blaming yourself can sometimes be counterproductive

I have never had any sexual urges

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I don’t have strong sexual urges and don’t think I ever have. This makes me feel strange because my friends are always having long conversations about sexuality and intimacy, and it makes me feel like a freak who is left out. Their relationships are always deeply sexual, while mine always feel forced, as if I have to be intimate if the relationship has a chance of surviving. I haven’t met anyone as ‘asexual’ which may be a problem because it feels if all I want are platonic relationships. Is there something wrong with me? If I don’t find someone who thinks this way, I worry that I will be forced to be intimate with someone for the rest of my life just for the companionship, and the idea terrifies me. What should I do?
If you aren’t comfortable with anything, that’s your prerogative and you shouldn’t be ashamed or sorry for it. To say that you aren’t sexual and that it makes you feel like a freak only undermines how you think of yourself, and why you feel as if you need to conform to what your friends or society in general ask you to. There are millions of people who aren’t interested in sex. All that matters is doing what makes you happy and avoiding what makes you uncomfortable. As for companionship, why assume you won’t find someone who thinks the way you do? Keep meeting new people and accept that this may take time, but it isn’t an impossible dream.

My close friends call me uptight and say that this is why I struggle to have successful relationships. How do I change?
Ask them what they mean and think about whether you agree. If you don’t, and are happy being the way you are, their opinions shouldn’t matter. Relationships involve two people, and blaming yourself can sometimes be counterproductive.


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