Long-distance is so hard to do!

I have been in a long-term relationship with a guy who used to live in my city and moved away for work a year ago. We have continued to maintain this well because of our history together, but I find it difficult to cope at times because the switch from a normal relationship to a long-distance one has created several problems. We don’t chat as much as we used to, because his work timings are different from mine. On weekends, we don’t get a chance to catch up like before because we’re not going somewhere together and have to rely on phone calls in between household chores. It’s not at a point where I am starting to panic, but I am definitely worried about how bad things will get in the future if we have to live apart for much longer. How can we make this work?
None of the things you point out need to be a problem if you can both acknowledge that your relationship needs to be worked on. There are always going to be challenges, irrespective of where the two of you live. If communication is tricky, you may have to find ways of making sure you keep in touch through the day, probably by allocating some time to chat during lunch breaks. If chores make it hard to spend more time on weekends, try and email each other whenever you have something specific to discuss. Technology has made keeping in touch easier than ever before, but it all depends upon how badly the two of you want to help your relationship get stronger. Try and put together a plan that involves meeting in person whenever possible, because that will also give you both something to look forward to. I also suggest having a conversation about your future, because there will come a time when the idea of a long-term relationship may stop being feasible. Talk about how long this is going to last and what happens next.

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