She is full of doubts about us!

I am a 30-year old man struggling to maintain my relationship with my girlfriend for four years now. We have been trying to take this relationship forward for a while, but I can never get her to commit to an engagement because she always has doubts about our future. She worries about all kinds of things, from whether I will change after marriage to whether my family will not accept her. I have tried my best to calm her down and tell her that this is all speculation, but her anxiety is what keeps us from moving forward. My family has begun to ask if they should introduce me to other women and if I should consider an arranged marriage, and I don’t know what to tell them. I love my girlfriend a lot, but I will have to give her an ultimatum because I can’t wait forever. What should I do?
It seems as if you already know what you have to, given what your priorities are. If your girlfriend struggles with anxiety, that is perfectly acceptable, provided she acknowledges that there is a problem and that she requires help. There are multiple ways of coping with anxiety that a professional can help her with, but that doesn’t address the larger issue of whether she wants this relationship to evolve. If you feel as if you are running out of time, she should have begun thinking about her own priorities a while ago, but it doesn’t seem as if she has. If this is not as important to her as it is to you, there is no point trying to force her into an engagement. I suggest you give yourself, and her, a little more time to think about whether this can ever change. If she doesn’t address her anxiety, there is no way of knowing if it will continue to bother her and affect your lives together in the future either. Tell her why you feel the way you do and move on.

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