Should I let him meet his friends?

I have been dating a guy for almost a year and recently found out that he used to spend time with a bad set of people a few years ago. They consumed drugs and it took him a long time to break free of them as well as his addiction. I was okay with this confession because I know he no longer consumes any of these substances. A few days ago, he told me that some of his friends from that time had reached out to him asking to meet. He said he wanted to because it had been a long time ago and because he still thought of them as his friends. I didn’t object, because I don’t think I have a right to, but I am concerned because I know how peer pressure can make one do things they don’t want to. Should I tell him to cut off all ties with them permanently, if he wants to be with me?
You acknowledge that he has made positive changes in his life and no longer indulges in substances that could cause harm. He has come clean about why he wants to meet these people from his past. You have the right to air your views, of course, and explain why you are worried. To issue an ultimatum is counterproductive and insulting because he hasn’t done anything to prompt this. It also comes across as disrespectful because you imply that he may go back to doing terrible things because he can’t control himself. You don’t know his friends and have no reason to feel this way because nothing has happened yet. If you want your relationship to thrive and grow stronger, it is important that you build trust with your partner and start by acknowledging that you are adults capable of making individual choices. Tell him about your concerns, but don’t jump to conclusions when you have no cause to. He hasn’t even met these friends yet. Why not wait and see what happens after that meeting?

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