If he doesn’t, you should evaluate your own feelings and ask yourself why you want to be with a person who doesn’t appreciate you as much as he should
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My relationship with my boyfriend ended badly and he has blocked me everywhere, making me feel as if everything was my fault. He didn’t take any responsibility and made it seem as if he was rational, and I was the crazy person bent on destroying what we had. This wouldn’t have bothered me if I didn’t love him, but I still do and I want us to try and get back together. I don’t know how to approach him if he doesn’t even want to communicate with me. I have thought of writing a letter or sending a gift, but if he genuinely believes that I am not someone he wants to be with, without accepting that he did some wrong things too, I can’t find a way of fixing this. What should I do?
You’re right about not being able to fix this unless he decides to have a mature conversation about it. A letter and gift may be okay, but it also absolves him from taking any responsibility and only reiterates his position that requires you to make amends. Relationships involve two people, which is why the onus of fixing them cannot be on one alone. If he agrees to meet and have a civil conversation, you can take it slowly and hope that time allows him to be a little more realistic and honest about what happened. If he doesn’t, you should evaluate your own feelings and ask yourself why you want to be with a person who doesn’t appreciate you as much as he should.
I have been working late nights and my lack of sleep has made me irritable and angry. My girlfriend says this will damage our relationship and I am worried. I cannot quit my job, but I don’t want to lose her. Please help.
You obviously can’t have it both ways, but you can work on yourself to separate your personal and professional lives. If she is telling you what the problem is, you should listen and act upon it.
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