You won’t know unless you have that conversation, provided you still have feelings for that person
Illustration/Uday Mohite
My partner and I have been in a relationship for around two years and recently began working together after deciding to set up a business. We have had multiple problems since then and can’t seem to find a way of making this work. It’s not as if we doubt each other as professionals, but disagreements are finding their way into our personal lives, and we are increasingly spending more time fighting than enjoying each other’s presence. Things are so bad that he recently suggested ending our relationship and I couldn’t think of a reason to disagree. Is there any way of making this work or should we assume there’s nothing we can do?
If you have a reason to stay with each other, there will always be something you can both do. It’s not about separating the personal from the professional as much as recognising and acknowledging what is important. Disagreements are common and sometimes a great way of helping two people learn about each other, but they need to be taken in the right spirit. Arguments spilling over into your personal life are inevitable if you spend a lot of time with each other, but you will have to learn how to make sure they don’t affect your priorities. Start by having a conversation about why you chose to be together, and what you once hoped this relationship would evolve into. If there is no common ground there, your professional disagreements will eventually overwhelm you. If there is something you treasure about each other, you can have conversations about everything else that needs to be done to make sure work doesn’t get in the way of your personal lives.
Should I accept a friend request from someone I used to have a crush on, who rejected my advances when I was younger? Does this mean they have changed their mind?
You won’t know unless you have that conversation, provided you still have feelings for that person. It is entirely your prerogative, and your chosen boundaries that matter.
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