We have grown apart as a couple

I have been married for seven years and I am beginning to think my husband doesn’t want me anymore. Ours was an arranged marriage and my parents wanted me to choose him because our families come from the same ancestral village. My husband and I were not very attracted to each other at the start, but we grew close after marriage because we had some common interests. Over the past year or so, however, he has become increasingly distant. We don’t have children because neither of us wanted to be parents, but I feel as if that has created a gap in our marriage that we can’t fill by just being together. We haven’t even gone on a holiday together in a long time because we don’t seem to summon up any enthusiasm for it. I haven’t even asked him if there is a problem because I can’t seem to care if we stay together or not. How do I fix this?
On the one hand, you believe your husband is losing interest in you. On the other, you specifically mention a lack of enthusiasm on your own part to try and figure out what’s going wrong. If you are looking for a way to fix this, you may have to start by asking yourself if you want it fixed to begin with. To think of children as a way of filling a gap in any marriage is wrong, because parenting is a serious and lifelong commitment. The root of this problem lies elsewhere, and a lack of communication won’t help either of you. If you haven’t gone on a holiday together, that is where you should start. Take time off from your home, choose a place that allows you both to focus on each other, and initiate that conversation because it is long overdue. Relationships need work, and a lot of it. The sooner you and your husband acknowledge that, the easier it will be to figure out what you both want from this marriage.

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