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Why won’t he meet me?

Updated on: 20 November,2025 01:37 AM IST  |  Mumbai
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Trust your eyes, not your chats. If someone isn’t willing to meet, it’s a red flag even if there is no obvious sign that there’s something wrong

Why won’t he meet me?

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I met someone online a few months ago and we have been chatting a lot. A few days ago, he confessed that he has begun to have romantic feelings for me, and I realised that I had begun to feel the same way. Since then, I have been pestering him to meet me on a date, but he keeps coming up with excuses and I am starting to doubt what he said. If he can’t meet me in real life, and can only talk about his feelings online, am I making a huge mistake by opening up to him? I haven’t felt this comfortable with anyone in years, and there is nothing about him that makes me feel as if I am being led on. What should I do?
Trust your eyes, not your chats. If someone isn’t willing to meet, it’s a red flag even if there is no obvious sign that there’s something wrong. If he can’t come up with a plausible excuse, you are wilfully ignoring your instinct and hoping for something that isn’t real. The downside of the internet is how it allows us all to don personas that may be completely at odds with who we really are. This is your life on the line, and your well-being, so why put it at risk for someone you have never met? Give him a last chance to get off the internet and meet you and, if there’s another excuse, you should seriously consider whether any of this is genuine.

Should I be angry that my boyfriend isn’t introducing me to his family? He says it’s because they may not be ready yet, but we have been dating for six months.
If he isn’t willing to bring you into his personal life, this is a sign of disrespect or embarrassment, irrespective of how difficult his family may or may not be. The onus of fixing this is on him, not you, because you are entitled to feel hurt if this behaviour is causing you pain.


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