I can't get over her even after a decade...

Sep 13, 2014, 06:00 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I’m 32 and single. I have been in love with this girl for a decade. To my misfortune, she is married with a two-year-old child. But even to this day, I have the same feelings for her as it was years ago, nothing has changed. I remember her every day and night and I’m sure I cannot forget her all my life. I think she loves me still too. We hit if off well and were together for almost a year till we drifted apart.
— Karthik

Dear Diana
Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Karthik,
First get this in your head that she is married and a mother too. You had all the time in the world to woo her and make her the woman of your life. But perhaps it was ego or shyness that did not let you ask her if she was interested in you. By simply assuming that she loves you too, you are merely speculating. If she loved you and cared for you, she would have dropped a hint too. She did not and nor did you. Let this girl remain in the past, move on in life and find someone who can be yours unless you want to wreck her marriage.

Dear Diana,
I have been in a relationship for almost a year and a half with a guy whom I was working with previously. After I changed jobs, he has become over possessive about me. He keeps tabs on me — where I go, what I do? I have to explain in detail what I am doing the whole day. This has become irritating and at times, we end up fighting. What should I do?
— Leeva

Dear Leeva,
Your guy is of a suspicious nature. He is keeping tabs on your every move as he does not trust you. When you were with him at his workplace, he could keep an eye on you, but now that you have moved on, he cannot do it. Knock sense into his head and tell him how you feel. A suspicious mind spells disaster for a relationship.

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