I'm 29 and I can't get over my ex-boyfriend. I was involved with him for two years before leaving him for my current boyfriend as he treated me badly. The thing is I've never got over him. I still think about him, miss him and wish I could see him one more time. What makes it more complicated is that my current boyfriend treats me like a princess, which is the opposite to my ex-boyfriend, but still I can't seem to move on.
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He treated you badly, still you can't get him out of your head. You have to clear your muddled mind and move on. You took the decision to walk out on him. If you keep pining for him, it will make things even difficult for you to move on. As love endures, you still keep thinking about him. If you want to continue being berated by him, go back to him at your own risk. If you want someone who respects you, stick around with your present guy. The choice is yours.
My wife and I were together for five years before we went our ways. She was seeing another man for a while in between. Now that we've made an attempt to be together again, it feels like she is comparing me to the other man she was with briefly. He was this bulked up and tattooed dude which I can never be. What should I do?
Comparisons will lead to several problems for you and her. If your wife has made this guy a yardstick, she will always be making notes of what you lack and what he had. This will unnecessary create another rift between you two. Now that you have decided to get together, you might as well begin life anew on a pleasant note rather than go around making comparison notes. Knock sense into your wife's head to refrain from doing it.
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