Dear Diana,
I have been with this guy for over a year. Now, when we were planning to make things official and get engaged, a friend of his has made some startling revelations about him. According to her, he was secretly married when he was based in Kolkata for a year. He had told me that he had gone for an office assignment to Kolkata six years ago. She is a former colleague and their common friends tell me that she was interested in him, but he was not. As soon as word spread that we were going to exchange rings, she called me to tell me that she had something important to tell me. I met her at a mall where she told me that he had befriended a girl there and they had exchanged garlands at a temple. He was young and naive and just gave it to the girl's demands. But after six months, they went their way and he was back in Mumbai. I was taken aback by this revelation and ever since I have had sleepless nights.
— Sameera

Illustration/Uday Mohite
Illustration/Uday Mohite

Dear Sameera,
What has stopped you from asking him and finding out the truth yourself? Instead of spending sleepless nights, tell him whatever this friend has told you. This guy cares for you and now that you are taking the relationship to the next level, he would not have hidden his past from you. There is this possibility that this pal of his has an axe to grind with him as he rejected her advances, so she might just be filling in your ears. She does not want you to get engaged to him. Why is she telling you now when you two are getting engaged? Why did she not warn you all this while? Her intentions are surely suspect. Find out the truth yourself.