I have taken a fancy for an office colleague. As we sit across each other, we happen to look at each other often and he always smiles. He is not too demonstrative, but I can read his mind. I am sure he likes me. I try to spend as much time as possible with him during lunch breaks or while working on assignments. When we are at conferences, he always sits next to me. I am extremely comfortable with him. How do I get to know him better? I think he is shy and does not know how to tell me. I have been dropping big hints to him, but he has not yet responded. A few days back, he dropped me home. I could sense that he wanted to tell me something, but was uncomfortable saying it. I feel he is the man for me. Should I just ask him or wait for him to tell me? I quite enjoy the attention he gives me. He also goes out of his way to help me at work.
If you just ask him outright, you might sound desperate and put him off. Your guy may be a bit shy so he is taking his time. Or perhaps he wants to be sure of his feelings before just rushing into a relationship. He is showering you with attention, so enjoy this phase. Remember as he is an office colleague, he is playing safe. He may not want to be part of office gossip. Also, he does not want to lose you as a friend. Nor does he want his and your professional life to be affected by it. You need to be patient. I am sure once he is more comfortable with you, he will tell you. Meanwhile do not over do it as he might be scared or embarrassed to tell you his feelings for him. Just go with the flow. If you are really keen to know what's on his mind, the next time you two are together ask him what he thinks of you. His response will tell you what you mean to him.
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