While on a night out last weekend, I got the biggest shock of my life. I was with my guy buddies and we were having a whale of a time. A few drinks down, one of my pals confessed that he liked my wife. He said he had the hots for her ever since I got married two years ago. The rest of the guys just laughed and said that he was drunk and saying random stuff. Everyone forgot about it, but not me. I was seething in anger and wanted to take this guy to task. The next morning when I met this guy, there was no talk about the incident. He has been behaving as if nothing happened, but for me things are not the same. He may have said it in an inebriated state, but the fact is that he finds her sexually attractive. I have not told my wife about the incident. But it has been affecting me ever since. What do I do? My wife does not even know this guy. She has met him barely four or five times.
You should do as the other buddies in your group did — just forget about what he said. It might be difficult, but by telling him it will cause more chaos and strain the relations between you two forever. Your pal was drunk and not in his senses, so he was unaware what he was saying. It is better to ignore it. If you react, it will affect your wife as well. She has no clue what is going on, so there is no point even telling her. She barely knows him — this discounts the possibility of the two hooking up behind your back. Your friend does not even remember what he blurted in his drunken stupor, so let him be. If he does it again in an inebriated state, then think of reacting to what he said.
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