Fitness band during sex is the latest bedroom attraction. Here's why

Sep 11, 2017, 10:30 IST | Dhara Vora Sabhnani

Former cricketer Andrew Flintoff gives a thumbs up to monitoring calories in bed, but his wife, Rachael, isn’t pleased with this. Pic/AFP
Former cricketer Andrew Flintoff gives a thumbs up to monitoring calories in bed, but his wife, Rachael, isn’t pleased with this. Pic/AFP

If you thought mobile phones are a rude intrusion in your bedroom, the fitness band might be the latest addition to the list. Former English cricketer Andrew Flintoff recently revealed (or 'overshared', according to British tabloids) that he wears a digital fitness tracker band in the sack. He added that it helped him meet his calorie burn target for the day and also egged him to go harder in bed to satisfy his wife. His revelations raked in much ridicule and shock from female social media users. Adding to the buzz on social media, his wife Rachael admitted that she wasn't a fan of the idea.

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Ameeta Sanghavi Shah
Ameeta Sanghavi Shah

How much is good?
Mind, life and relationship therapist Ameeta Sanghavi Shah feels that balance is the key to a relationship's success. When the goal (here, fitness) becomes bigger than everything else, it signifies that something larger is at play. Shah credits this obsession to the individualistic lives couples live today, away from their relatives and family. "We seek growth and better results. While that is good, we lose the security of the known while coping with a world of crazy change. We become anxious even as we strive to be positive. When we can't control the demands of ensuring certainty and meeting our own need for being perfect, we begin to control the things we think we can. This is where compulsive behaviour steps in. It gives us the illusion of control over the bigger picture," explains Shah.

Deanne Panday, celebrity fitness expert
Deanne Panday, celebrity fitness expert

Celebrity fitness expert, Deanne Panday seconds Shah's opinion. "Fitness is a journey, not a destination. If anything is used temporarily for motivation, or to help you get on track and not as an obsession, it can be positive. In this technology-driven world, the chances of dependency on gadgets are strong. But self-motivation is what works in the long run. Your body is a bio computer and if you listen, it will give you signs on what to do. You don't need a gadget for it," says Panday.

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A healthy inside
Panday adds that athletes need motivation as their career depends on fitness, but for a layman with a sound medical history, a holistic fitness pattern designed for their body will work. "I have seen a lot of people in Mumbai obsess about aesthetics and being skinny. But internal health is the key to a healthy life. Learn where to draw the line and keep your partner happy and healthy too," she adds.

The larger picture is what matters in the long run. Shah suggests that one should not convert everything in life into a training ground to measure, prove and build your strength. A relationship is not a game of numbers but a continuous experience that contributes to wellness. It comes from connecting to the self; machines and gadgets need to be put aside. "The language of compulsion of 'I have to' and 'should' must change to one of choice: of being aware and present - 'I wish to' or 'prefer to'. So, while you opt for monitoring gadgets, also spend time being mindful, meditating and connecting with your loved ones," Shah reminds.


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What is orthorexia?
When a person's pocket of control centers around his health, he could be termed as suffering from an orthorexic pattern. Such people rely on gadgets excessively and over time, lose connection with their senses, body sensations and emotions. Unlike anorexia, where the aim is only to lose weight, in orthorexia, there is a compulsion to get all the numbers right as far as calories, weight and blood pressure go. Here, people get caught up in continuous measurements of every micro aspect of food, movement and exercise. A person caught up in targets and results makes himself/herself emotionless and robotic. At work, s/he forgets empathy, misses taking cues from the body and others when fatigue is telling him/her to rest. S/he may also miss the realisation that the spouse needs a partner and a different touch than what is being offered while in bed.

Shayan Chowdhury and Mehak Mahajan
Shayan Chowdhury and Mehak Mahajan

Fit or not?

Four Mumbaikars reveal their choices

I feel it might work for a couple, who has been married for long and is approaching middle age. In today's age with a performance-orient work schedule, people tend to give so much to their work that by the time they are back home, they are completely drained. For such situations, a band might be a great tool to keep track. Lack of sexual chemistry can also be an indicator of loss of attraction. No band can help you there. I wouldn't wear a band to bed. I am attracted to my partner and don't feel the need for a gadget to tell me how to pace things. I feel a band and its app can, however, help check if your partner is cheating on you. The graphical features of the app, which show movement, might lead to him or her getting caught later if there is a spike in the graph!
Shayan Chowdhury, 31, married, marketing professional

Contrary to popular belief, I don't think there is a template for relationships. Every couple figures what works for them. A fitness band is just another accessory. I wouldn't wear one in bed; it's not my thing. I feel that at this stage of my relationship, it would be irrelevant to the both of us.
Mehak Mahajan, 34, married, media professional

I wouldn't mind my husband wearing it as it helps keep a check on the number of calories burnt. I have always wanted to know if sex really burns extra calories and reduces fat. However, if the gadget beeps loudly, it could become a distraction.
Reshma Kokane, 26, married, digital manager

I would love to know how many calories are burnt while having sex. So, I wouldn't mind it. Nowadays, even our phones buzz at all times, so a soft beep from the band won't matter.
Aayushi Barman, 27, single, PR professional

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