'I want the lasting power of a porn hero'

Dr Love

Q. Please suggest some ayurvedic medicine that can boost my sex life and give me power for 10 to 20 minutes like a porn hero.

A. You clearly have me confused with one of the quacks who advertise on the Western Railway. If I were one of them, I would recommend a concoction of garlic, ginger, green chillies and castor oil that I would then sell to you for a large amount of money. You would probably pay me that amount too, considering how gullible you appear to be. As for being a 'porn hero', I'm not sure what you mean. I don't know any porn heroes, nor do I know people who claim to have porn heroes. Sex isn't about going at it like a frightened rabbit for 20 minutes; it's about intimacy and pleasure with someone you care deeply about, or are desperately attracted to, at the very least. Also, if you believe an ayurvedic product can turn you into a porn star, you should try them all and blog about the results. Until then, I suggest you lie down and think of other things.

Q. How do I get my boyfriend to commit to me?

A. That depends on what your definition of commitment is. Do you want him to commit to marriage, for instance? That would depend on how long the two of you have been together and whether or not you both believe you are at a stage where marriage is inevitable. The only way to figure out if that is indeed the case is to ask him about it. If by commitment you mean dating exclusively, as opposed to him dating you among others, that also depends on where the two of you stand in this relationship. You can't expect him to commit within weeks of meeting you, for instance, because chances are you wouldn't do that to someone you barely knew either. It all boils down to communication, and how comfortable the two of you are with each other.