'I'm so heartbroken and don't know how to move on...'

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I broke off three months ago. Though I'm trying to keep busy and want to move on, everything around reminds me of my ex guy. My pals are telling me it will be easier if I tell myself that he dumped me for someone else. But I do not know why am I still holding on - there are so many memories as we were together for five years. It has been painful for me as we didn't end it after a proper conversation. He just stopped talking to me. For a while, I tried calling him, but he would just avoid me completely. He began snubbing me and when we would meet, he would laugh and rattle off the places where we would hang out. I want to move on, but I cannot get him out of my head.
- Safeera


Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Safeera,
As you were with him for a long time, it is difficult to let go. The fact that he dumped you for another woman should be the biggest reason you should put a full stop on affections for him now. The guy did not care for you or he would not have behaved in such a manner. Nor did he have the decency to tell you it was over between you two. If he had, it would have been easier for you to move on. There was no closure in your relationship, so you are still hanging on to him; you are still pining for him. What has caused you even more heartburn is the avoidance games he played after he went away. Leave alone an explanation which he owed you, he just switched off. The biggest help is going to come from time. It will take a while, but you will forget him. The next time you are engulfed in those moments spent with him, just tell yourself he was not worthy of your love.