'I feel my husband will desert me...'

My husband and I have tried everything possible but nothing has worked for us. Of late, however, I haven't been able to sleep well. I keep having these recurring nightmares where my husband is leaving me for this woman from his office. I know that she's just a colleague and married with two kids. So I don't understand this insecure phase I am going though. Should I tell my husband what is going on in my mind?
- Sohni

Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Sohni,
By telling your hubby about your nightmare, you will probably be giving him a reason to go astray. He's resigned to his fate, so why are you creating unnecessary problems for him? Be happy with whatever you have. You say this colleague is married with kids, so why are you disrupting her domestic bliss by assuming that your hubby is having an affair with her. Banish such thoughts from your mind. If both of you are keen to have a child, give adoption a serious thought.

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