After letting him go, he now wants to come back!

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Dear Diana,

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We've been in a relationship two years and recently decided to get married. Life was going fine when all of a sudden, his behaviour changed. We'd started fighting and had a lot of arguments. I now feel that there is no love left between us.

One day he called me up and we had a huge fight. I've decided to let him go. In between, my medical problem got solved and I am perfectly fine these days.

It's been three months since. He called me saying he wants to get back with me. I have been distressed since. Should I?

An Admirer

Dear Friend,

Okay, first of all, what medical problem are you talking about? There is just a passing mention of it in your letter. Is this the reason why the two you drifted apart? Was this the cause of the anger and frustration?

Because if it is, it seems that he's simply an opportunist, if nothing else. Now that it is resolved (your problem), he's ready for reconciliation.

The timing is very suspect. Whether or not you want to give him another chance is up to you. If you think he doesn't deserve you, don't get back with him.

I was too late!

Dear Diana,

I'm 21 and in love with a girl who's two years younger that I am. I am madly in love with her. For four years now, I haven't been able to express my feelings for her because I was scared of losing our friendship if I did tell her. Now she's having an affair with a boy from her college.

I promptly told her how I felt for her but she has replied that it is too late. She's still my friend but when I'm with her, I don't know how to keep my emotions in check. It is fate, after all!

Mehul Shah

Dear Mehul,

Well, what's the point in weeping over something you didn't do now? Believe in action, not tears. If it's simply an affair, chances are that it may not be a long-lived one and that it could fizzle out in time. What really matters is, how involved is shewith this guy.

If she's madly in love with the guy, your wait for her might be pointless. That may not be the case if it is a casual affair. You really ought to bide your timeu2026 or simply move on.

I want to improve the chemistry we share

Dear Diana,

We've been deeply in love for four years now. Trouble is, we don't think alike and end up having big fights. We are passionate about the love we shre, though and so, patch up nicely every single time.

I want to improve my chemistry with him. Also, he is very cautious about having sex as he doesn't want to make it a habit that might pose future problems and hence, altogether avoids doing it. Kindly advise...

Name withheld on request

Dear Friend,

After four years together, one would expect you to predict the possible roadblacks and think up remedies to avoid them. I guess opposites attract (though not entirely) and so, you're goingto continue having big arguments. Also, one can never be too cautious when it comes to sex.

Most importantly because of the high risk of contracting STDs or the HIV+ virus.u00a0 Avoiding it altogether because of the possibility of an addiction to it or the possibility of that becoming the end-all of being in a relationship is simply stupid. If it's the odds of having an unwanted pregnancy on his hands that's troubling him, there are always options of making sure you're safe. Chemistry-wise, different things work for different people.