Diana will solve it! Write to Diana at diana@mid-day.com, or fax her on 24150009. You can also post letters to Dear Diana, Mid Day, Peninsula Centre, Dr S S Rao Road, opp Mahatma Gandhi Hospital, Parel, Mumbai 400012
Dear Diana,
I'm in college and I am really pining for a girlfriend. All my friends have one. I feel there is a void in my life that only a girl's presence can fill.
But I feel that any relationship I have will probably be short-lived.
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I didn't get intimate with my last two girlfriends (we dated a few times) and it felt more like I was going out with them just to prove I could get a girlfriend.
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I know that I need to feel good about myself first before I enter into a relationship.
The problem is, I don't know how to start loving myself. Some people say I should write a list of things I'm good at and things I'm bad at, and see what I have achieved.
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I tried it, but that doesn't seem to help. Can you give me any ideas?
Salim
Dear Salim,I don't think you should feel the need to try so hard. A relationship happens when the time and the person are right. We have no control over it. You should not be with a girl just to be able to say you are in a relationship.
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Wouldn't you rather have a relationship that meant something? I think rather than purposely trying to get a girlfriend, you should just widen your friends' circle and meet more people.
And if you happen to meet your future girlfriend that way, then great. If not, you will have made a few more friends.
How do I get my ex boyfriend back?
Dear Diana,I recently split from my boyfriend...and I'm just wondering if you know of others who have gone through a break up and got back together at a later point. If so how did they achieve this? Can you help me on this?
Cheryl
Dear Cheryl,
Do you really want him back? There must've been a reason you both decided to split. Have you resolved the issue? Do you know if he wants to get back too?
If that's the case, then just send him a text message, set up a meeting to talk and sort out the problems. Communication is the best tool.
Is it bad to be good or good to be bad?
Dear Diana,
I am 21 years old. I come from a small town and moved to the city a year ago. I must admit that I have been somewhat of a good guy.
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I have never smoked, drunk or done other stuff that most guys grow up experimenting with.
So now I feel quite out of place with my new friends, who do these things. Since I am hanging out with them all the time, I feel an urge to do it too.
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I tried smoking, and I liked it but I am not addicted to it. I do it just once in a while...and I drank once. That's it. But now my friends are asking me if I would want to smoke weed just once! Should I?
Suparn
Dear Suparn,
It's true that you should experience things to know what they are like. Otherwise, when people talk about it, you will be left clueless.
However, you should keep in mind that there is a reason weed has been classified as a drug. Make sure that when you try it, you are at home in the company of trusted friends.
After all, you may not even like it. But you have to be absolutely sure you don't get addicted to it or to other harmful drugs, as then you will have a serious problem.
You are still young and drug addiction can ruin your life. You should also read up on the after effects of smoking weed in some cases it is known to have caused paranoia and nervous breakdown. Be sensible about it.
