Because she's a bit thinner, they think she's taller!

Dear Diana,
My girlfriend and I are both 17 and from Mumbai. Our heights are more or less the same. She's a bit thinner than I am.

Because of this, my friends think that she is taller than me.... or older. I hate this and sometimes feel awkward to be around her when meeting her folks. What can I do to increase my height?

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Dear Friend,
So what if she's a wee bit taller than you are? Or thinner? Can't you let this pass? Are you really that conscious about your height? If what others say matters to you, you really shouldn't be with her.



Nor should she be with you. Try whatever you wish to if you think it will make a difference. You'll anyway grow in height as will she for a few more years.

Why try something unnatural for a trivial difference in height? And if you're still feeling awkward, you're as narrow-minded as the people who taunt you. Remember, they do it only because they know it affects you.

When is the right time?

Dear Diana,
My girlfriend and I are planning on having sex in a few months, when we're both ready. How will I know that she's ready? We're both 21 and don't really know if there is something such as the right time.

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Dear Friend,
If this is the first time either of you are having sex, concentrate on making the other comfortable.

The first time should be memorable so work on the intimacy. It's easy after that. When she's ready, believe me, you WILL know.

He's a cleanliness freak... I am not!

Dear Diana,
My husband is a cleanliness freak and I really just don't care. I really can't find the motivation to clean the house.
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I want to, but when he messes it up hours later, I just don't want to do it anymore. I don't know what to do.
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All this is seriously affecting our marriage. I really, really need to find some way to keep myself motivated to do this for myself and for him.

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Dear Diana,
My husband is a cleanliness freak and I really just don't care. I really can't find the motivation to clean the house.

I want to, but when he messes it up hours later, I just don't want to do it anymore. I don't know what to do.
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All this is seriously affecting our marriage. I really, really need to find some way to keep myself motivated to do this for myself and for him.

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Dear Friend,
You're not his servant. If he messes up the place, HE ought to clean up after himself. That's not your job. Also just because you are the woman of the house, doesn't mean it is your problem.
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It's easy to preach, but way difficult to practise what one preaches. Motivation has nothing to do with it. Don't do it if you don't want to.

He's just trying to be in charge. If he's really that bothered about the mess he creates, he'll get rid of it himself.
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Don't succumb just because it is the easy way out. Stand strong and fight him because he is being selfish about it.