22 February,2010 10:15 AM IST | | Diana
Dear Diana,
How do you deal with someone who only cares about himself? This guy used to be nice to me but now all of a sudden, it seems like he doesn't care about anyone.
He ignores me, but it has gotten better. I can't tell my feelings for him that he is a jerk who never wants to be with me even though were close friends.
He always wants to know information from me or he brags to me that he's smarter. When he got a great job, I was jealous and he brags about how he got it. I hate it and am really getting annoyed by it.
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
Is this guy really worth fighting for? He may well be smart but it sounds like he doesn't make you happy. In the long run it will only make you hurt.
This guy doesn't realise that what he is doing isn't a relationship at all. It takes two to make a relationship work, and he is pushing you away, and you are trying to get back closer, and he sounds like he is too thick- headed to realise he is pushing you away.
If you think he is worth it, tell him that you are feeling very distanced and that his attitude towards the relationship is very negative. If he is willing to work it out, you will know he is worth it. If he just makes up excuses, and tries to put the blame on you, move on. He isn't worth the heartache.
Too soon to ask her out?
Dear Diana,
I'm starting to like a girl who just broke up with her guy. I've been there for her whenever she has needed me. Here's my question: do I go ahead and ask her or wait?
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
I'd say give her time and allow yourself to grow on her. If you start dating now, you will only end up being a temporary rebound and she will quickly get over you. Spend some time with her and earn her trust and respect.
My gal wants me to take off ex's name off tattoo
Dear Diana,
I have been together with my current girlfriend for about a year now. The only problem is she now thinks that because we have been together a year, I should get part of an old tattoo removed.
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The tattoo is my ex's name in Chinese. I don't want and don't intend to. How can I tell her no without causing a fight? And this despite me having a tattoo of her name as well! She might even end the relationship because of this fight, though!
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
A tattoo, unlike a ring, doesn't come off as easily and is, by that measure, more difficult to discard. If you have your girlfriend's tattoo inked as well, I really don't see what the fuss is about. Laser tattoo removals are expensive and don't always go hitch-free.u00a0
It's possible but if you don't want to, DON'T. If she thinks you're being impossible or if she feels insecure, well that's HER problem, not yours.
You've explained yout point and that's that. I feel this is too silly a reason to end a relationship over. You might want to check up if she is cheating on you and is looking for an easy way out. Or maybe I am just being paranoid.
