25 February,2010 10:30 AM IST | | Diana
Dear Diana,
I can't get over my ex. He's always on my mind. I have tried to to do other stuff, meet people, go on vacation and spend cash on shopping. But when I am about to sleep and when I wake up, I feel so depressed to think about what he did to me. I pretend to be okay but the truth is I can't accept the fact that he left me for someone else. I can't accept that he loved her enough to leave me.
How can I ever move on? I have broken up from him for 10 months now and I am as depressed as I ever was when I learned that he was cheating on me with a girl from another city. Sometimes I am ok, but I still have episodes of what happened. It keeps on playing on my mind. Him and this girl going to the hotel every few weekends when he said he was spending time with his cousins.
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I keep hearing his words that he can't leave her because he loves her. He is crazy about her and can't live without her. I just cry and cry and cry. How do I stop myself from playing this over and over in my mind? I feel terrible.
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
Isn't it time that you let go of this loser's memories? I know it is tough and that you are trying to. Just think about how lucky you are to be free of him. Anyway don't think for one second that he is incapable of doing this to his new girl. Be happy that you are young, single and free of him.
Enjoy your life and focus on the things that make you happy. In time you will meet someone else and be grateful that you no longer have anything to do with him. You are single now so make the most of it.
Do things that you want to do and enjoy. If there's something you've always wanted to do, now's the time to do it. You didn't deserve to be treated like that, no one does. At least you know now what a selfish, unkind man he was. I can totally understand how much you you must be feeling.
You must have loved this man deeply and he betrayed you in the most hurtful way, by cheating on you and choosing his lover over you. In my opinion what he did showed complete selfishness and disrespect for you. Don't worry about the future. One without him can't be all that bad.
I'm really not ready to be kissed just yet!
Dear Diana,
I'm 14 and he's 15. We go to different schools and I've really only seen him five times. We have a lot of mutual friends that we do hang out with. When he did ask me out, he tried to kiss me.
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I told him not to, but I have a feeling that the next time I see him, he will try it again. I'm not going to be ready to even kiss him for a while. How do I show him how I feel without making it too awkward? This weekend we're going to a movie with two other friends. I'm pretty much dreading the dimmed movie theatre lights....
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
If you don't want to say it, maybe if he tries to kiss you, turn your head and give him your cheek to kiss. Then just say you'd really like to kiss him but you'd like to get to know him better first. Unless he's a selfish guy, he'll respect your decision. As long as he knows you do like him, he'll wait for you to be ready.
You have only really just met each other. So take it slow like you have. Get to know him better. Wait a while for that special moment. You'll know when you're ready to be kissed. Don't give in to peer pressure.
