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Dear Diana,I am looking for advice on how to get my ex back. We were together for nearly three years, and got along really well. I thought we'd be together forever but it didn't happen. We were having a long distance relationship for a while because I was studying abroad.
But then I couldn't take it anymore and told him we should not be together. Also, he never told me he loved me, he said heu00a0 didn't want to say it unless he was certain; which is understandable. After the split, we tried to keep in touch but it got too hard. It was always left at that we might get back together after I returned.
When I returned, I asked him if we should give things another go or if I should move on. He said I should move on. I am devastated.
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I know I hurt him but now I want him back. We kissed a few weeks ago, and now I am convinced he still has feelings for me but he is stubborn and unwilling to talk about his feelings. I wish I knew a way to get him back. I would do anything, please Give me some suggestions.
Sunita
Dear Sunita,It seems like you just don't want to admit that it is over between the two of you. If he has asked you to move on, I suggest you accept that and move on.
Sometimes people grow out of relationships. You've already been together for over three years, so the teething trouble days are far behind you. Doesn't sound to me like he is being stubborn.
It seems to me like he wants to get out of this relationship and has made up his mind, so he doesn't even want to discuss it. Don't read anything into the kiss.
It was perhaps on the spur of the moment and doesn't mean anything deeper. Stop obsessing about this guy and try to get on with your life. If your resolve is strong, it will happen sooner than later.
He wants to cuddle, but I am not comfortable
Dear Diana,I've recently met a guy who I really have a lot in common with. He wants us to be an item, which is fine with me but he is veryu00a0 touchy-feely.
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He likes to hold hands and cuddle. I want to also, but I feel uneasy when he does it. How do I loosen up?
Neha
Dear Neha,Holding hands, cuddling are normal when you are dating someone. What's making you uneasy?
Is the cuddling more like he is feeling you up, hands going inside your clothes? If that's the case, tell him to slow down and see if he backs off. Set the pace you are confortable with.
My girlfriend hangs out with another guy
Dear Diana,I have been with my girlfriend for six months now and we are extremely close. She has just gone to college in Pune and isu00a0hanging out a lot with this new guy. She says he knows about me and I have nothing to worry about. However, I am worried.
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Whenever they go out, he picks up the tab, heu00a0 always compliments her and I believe he is trying to impress her. They spend time hanging out alone and I can't help not liking that.
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I am certain she is not cheating on me but I feel it is not right for my woman to spend a lot of time with another man who seeems interested in her. Am I right to not approve of this friendship?
Rajneesh
Dear Rajneesh,You've got reason to be concerned. Trust is very important in a relationship. Convey your feelings to your girlfriend.
Let her know how you're feeling, and stress that you don't doubt her for a second. Tell her that as a guy, you can see what's possibly going through the other guy's mind. Tell her you are concerned and want her to be careful.
No matter what stage of life we're in, attention from the opposite sex feels nice. It is somewhat of a validation that we appeal to others, so don't be too harsh on your girl.
There's no way she doesn't realise what this guy is upto, now she has to understand that it might affect your relationship. Take steps to ensure nothing comes between both of you.
