If he divorces her, I will marry her the next day!

If he divorces her, I will marry her the next day!

Dear Diana,
I was in love with a girl nine years older to me. We even wanted to get married. But fate had something else in store for us, I moved to the Gulf for work , The girl's parents told her to get married to a guy whose wife had expired and who had a four-year-old kid. She had told her parents about me but they did not listen to her, and got her married. On reaching India, I asked her how she was. She burst into tears and told me that her husband doesn't treat her like his wife. When I confronted her parents, they too said that they didn't know their daughter's life would be ruined.u00a0 They said my being nine years younger to her was a problem. I asked them what problem was there? At least, I'd have kept her happy. I told her in front of her parents that I love her and only her to this day. I even fought with my family to be with her and so, I went abroad to secure our future. Now she is telling me to settle down in life and get married. Her parents also tell me the same thing. She suggested marrying her younger sister, who's a year younger to me. She says she feels guilty for what happened. I told her that it wasn't her fault. She still loves me, and said this in the presence of her parents. If her husband divorces her, I'll marry her the very next day. I told her this. We both are Roman Catholic

Anthony

Dear Anthony,
You've got to understand something. As Roman Catholics, it's practically impossible to have a divorce. The community's laws simply do not provide for such a case. In any case, all this noise should have been created by your parents whom you fought valiantly or your friends who should've known of your love for her. There is a provision where people can inform the priests if two people shouldn't be bound in matrimony and that's the time when common friends should have anonymously done the needful even if she couldn't have for whatever reason. Also you being nine years younger, shouldn't be a problem (not for her parents, at least!). Her parents and her are telling you to do the right thing, even after separating the two of you. It's time you moved on because it may never work out unless there's papal intervention or justified grounds for nullification. Which, by the way, don't seem to exist. Of course, offering her younger sister up in exchange, isn't the most prudent thing to do.

He's done it with practically everyone. Now me!

Dear Diana,
I'm 18. My boyfriend is 24. We belong tou00a0 different religions but love each other a lot. The problem is he had a physical relationship with all the girls he dated before. We recently indulged in oral sex twice. Will it harm my health?

Confusedu00a0

Dear Friend,
It depends, really. Are you planning on having sex with him? Then it could be a problem. Even if he has practised safe sex in all previous instances, the element of risk exists. It isn't altogether safe to get physical with someone with multiple partners without adequate protection. It is equally possible that he may have picked up sexual infections that he could pass on to you. Having oral sex will only increase the risk of STDs if he has any cuts in his mouth or if you do. Also, if you don't stay hygienic, it will be a problem.