12 August,2009 07:37 AM IST | | Kumar Saurav
Specialists say sex is harmless during most part of the pregnancy, but chances are, your lady's interest levels are plunging. Here's how to handle it
Sex before pregnancy and after it may've been discussed at length, but we often tend to ignore the beautiful in-between. While societyu00a0 tries its best to detach expectant mothers from sexual indulgences, it is important for you to know how to pamper your better half with passion when the baby's breathing inside her. Here's some help.
Change is inevitable
Accept it, because you can't help it. Bedroom hours won't be the same anymore because of the hormonal changes that your woman is going through. Plus, continuous fear of hurting the child, nausea, tiredness and discomfort will add to the reduced libido. The desire for sex will fluctuate, and the fact that she's putting on those kilos won't make it any better. The to-be newbie in your family will also take upu00a0 considerable thought-space in her mind, leaving little for sex. The excitement and anticipation will but naturally get diverted. But c'mon, don't be a baby when another's just about to come. Instead, keep the stroking, cuddling and caressing on... you never know when she feels like it!
Is it safe?
Inspite of all the changes during those nine months, you can indulge in the act if the pregnancy is normal, devoid of any complications. In fact, some specialists say sex is far more pleasure-yielding 'those days' since there's increased vaginal lubrication and expansion, which enhance the chances of multiple orgasms.
The K word
One of the main reasons why couple skip sex during pregnancy isu00a0 lack of ease, and fear of faulty positions. So make sure you pick the right ones: the Kamasutra should help, if not the many guides your gynae stocks. Try creative sedentary and side positions, give the missionary and 'woman on top' a miss.
Replay the foreplay
Even if you are not engaging in an intercourse, there are other ways to keep the spark alive. Switch to other modes intense kissing, touching and extended foreplay. It sometimes works just as well.
Non-friction bestsellers
Forget baby oil and petroleum jellies. Instead, opt for water-soluble lubricants like KY Jelly, Glide, Aqualube, saliva or just water. The best part of water-soluble lubricants is that they don't cause too many infections, and can be washed off easily. Plus, they cost less and work well.
Talk the talk
Never block any channels of communication when it comes to expressing your desires. Dirty talk, especially in absence of regular physical contact, enhances pleasure, understanding and desire levels. Talk about your fetishes, kinks and fantasies even when you can't quite fulfill them; it keeps the fire burning.
AVOID INTERCOURSE during
>>Vaginal bleeding
>>Pain
>>Water-breaking
>>Contractions
PRECAUTIONS
>>During oral sex, make sure your partner doesn't blow air into your vagina. It could be fatal for you and your child because it can block blood vessels.
>>Don't entertain strangers in your bedroom. Exercise extra caution
>>Ask your doctor, "Is it safe to have sex?" It depends from case to case.
>>Don't force yourself into the act.
