02 June,2010 10:32 AM IST | | Diana
Dear Diana,
I am a 17-year-old boy who was in a relationship with a girl for over two years. Recently, my girl passed away. Since then, I have not been myself. I can't accept the fact that she is no more and move on in life. Due to this I have lost interest in studies.
I keep remembering her and cry easily. But at the same time, I am mentally quite strongu00a0-- I won't end my life or run away from home. I want to face life but it's really hard. I know that there will be another girlfriend for me but I have lost my first love. Please don't tell me to meet a psychiatrist, I can't do that because my parents won't allow me to. Please help me.
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
Remember time is the greatest healer. It will take a long time but you will overcome your grief and move on in life. You never know what fate has in store for you. Anyone in your situation would find themselves to be in a similar predicament. It is but natural to mourn for the love you lost.
You state that you are quite strong and will never resort to doing anything drastic in a fit of despair. That's a clear signal that you want to move on. You are still very young. At this age it is better to immerse yourself in studies.
I am sure your girl would have wanted you to excel in academics and make her proud. trust me over time, those tears will stop. It is better to keep yourself busy in studies and sports. Why don't you take up a sport you like and pursue it with passion? Or perhaps, even a hobby?
My girlfriend turned out to be a lesbian
Dear Diana,
I am a 21-year-old guy and had a physical relationship with a girl. Later, I realised that she was a lesbian. Will this cause me any problem? Should I see to a doctor or take any medicine? Please help.
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
It seems this unfortunate guy has been a victim of his own inability to cope with a failed affair. If he went horribly wrong in life because of that one failed love affair, he has no one but himself to blame.
He needed an emotional crutch and this new girl filled in the voidu00a0-- as a sister. If she really was such a great person, she'd never let another person's opinion cloud her own.
She probably made a difference to his life which is probably why he misses her so much. He had a support system in his friends a little too long. If he wants her back in his life, he will have to fight back and fight hard to tell her what she means to him.
