Keep the spark alive

Is your marriage alive or the divorce lawyers have started knocking your mind? Even in the worst cases, chances are that your martial life may just be a bit out of shape and needs a revival. Take a lesson from German supermodel star Heidi Klum and her singer husband Seal who recently reaffirmed their commitment to each other in a Hindu wedding ceremony on their third wedding anniversary. Read on as we tell you what you can do tou2026

However hot a relationship is, the steam diminishes with time. That's true because in any relationship, often comes a phase when the novelty becomes luxury. Communication gap, callousness and differences in the opinion are few of the factors that could dwindle the romance. Says Shalini Anant, clinical psychologist, Sanjeevani Nursing Home, "A fresh relationship is like a mystifying terrain, where you have a lot to discover but once there is nothing left for you to explore, the cute eccentricities grows into aggravating annoyances."
If you are too looking for answers as to why your marriage is crying for a tune-up or a major revamp, here are some tips that will probably recreate the magic of freshness.

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Who says that you don't need to dress well at home? None of the partner would like their husband or wife to be shabbily clad. Ladies, its time you throw your old, faded and food stained outfit and get back to the days when you dressed like a diva. And guys, your better not sit like a couch-potato adding on to your big fat belly. So, the first step towards rekindling your association is to focus on your appearance.

The 'bed' effect
In bed lies the sure-shot formula of a blissful long-term relationship. So despite your hectic schedules and never ending household chores, work towards establishing a rich sexual relationship. Better not treat sex as an obligation; it's a way to keep the flame burning.
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One fine date
Remember the day when she accepted your proposal? Didn't you take her on a beautiful date? Then, why not now?u00a0 Go on a date this night and as you sip in a glass of her favourite wine, watch the bond getting back on track. Celebrate every small or big moment. Use the subtle tools like kissing, hugging and PDA. The idea is to ensure that 'no matter what happens, we have time for ourselves'.u00a0

Three magical words
The butterfly phrase, I love you, is undoubtedly the 'shortest short cut' to rekindle your matrimony. Maybe the only antidote to a sagging bond is to get out of our timidity and to be not so tongue-tied when it comes to whispering sweet nothings. Come on, be a sport.
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Go for getaways
Surprise her with a small vacation this weekend. Just, the two of you. Not even you work. Kids can stay back with grannies. Hold hands, chat, flirt and do all the things you've always wanted to do alone. And don't leave the romantic champagne and cocktails behind!u00a0u00a0

We spoke to few celebrities to get dope on what they do to keep that thrill in the relationship alive
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Riddhima Kapoor Sahni, Fashion designer
Pamper with a surprise when its least expected. It could be anything from a bouquet of your partner's favourite flowers, gifts, cards or just reserve a table for the two of you at your partner's favourite restaurant.
Even visiting a spa together can be a tempting option.

Shakti Anand, Actor
I am a firm believer of the idea that before being a couple, you need to be friends. Long drives, outings, playing indoor games like scrabble do help in perking up the passion. Sai and me usually take a quick trip to Goa whenever we get time. And this kind of break really does wonders for our relationship.

Rajeshwari Sachdev, Actor and Singer
The simple trick is to begin your day by saying 'I Love you' and ending it with the same. I think we underestimate the power of this sweet phrase. Another thing that one can do is to call your partner ten times a day for no particular reason like most of the couples do in their courtship period.