My boyfriend wants to make a move on my BFF

Dear Diana,
I have begun to notice that my boyfriend has a crush on one of my best friends. She is unaware of this. Also, last week, a cousin of his enquired about my friend and said that he wanted to make a move on her.
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My boyfriend laughed and said he would do the same if it wasn't for me. I broke up with him over that. Later, we reunited.

However, he continues to ask questions about her whereabouts, who she is dating, comments on her physique and physical appearance (he tries to be clean about it).

I am no dummy. I know the undertones and the unspoken truth about it. Am I over reacting? And how do I deal with this?



Neha
Dear Neha,
He has put that doubt in your head now and you are bound to feel threatened. I guess if you'd made similar remarks about his mate, he would too.
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This also makes you anxious whenever he is around your BFF.

It can't be a picnic for you to be told how he feels about her, and to be constantly quizzed about her whereabouts, You must feel very confused and hurt and in your place, I'd worry about what was going on in his head.

Ideally, you'd want your guy and your best friend to have a nice, close bond but nowhere close to what he seems to be thinking.

You are not over-reacting. Clearly you are worried 24/7 and not happy with the situation. You have to admit that you are better off without him.

My girlfriend saw my roomie naked...

Dear Diana,
My girlfriend and I have been together for 10 months. Until recently, I was the only guy she had seen naked. Recently she came to my hostel, and my roommate came out of the bathroom nude.

I'm nervous that she has been thinking about him and wanting him. My roommate is well-endowed and has a better body than I do. Should I be worried?

Jatin
Dear Jatin,
You may be letting your imagination run riot here. Just because she saw your roomie naked does not meen she would be fantasising about him.

For all you know, he isn't her type. Most women will take a charming, caring, sweet, attentive boyfriend over someone who is just physically attractive.

Looks fade, but personality doesn't. She's with you as your girlfriend, not your roommate. So relax.

I am uncomfortable talking dirty to strange guys

Dear Diana,
I can't understand why guys like to talk dirty with someone they don't know. I have been on online dating chat rooms, and all the guys want to talk about is sex.

It makes me feel uncomfortable since the guy is a stranger but he doesn't seem to have a problem with it.
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Where do I go online to just have a normal conversationu00a0 with a member of the opposite sex, without feeling revolted?

Malini
Dear Malini,
Why do guys talk dirty to strangers? It is anonymous, like phone sex, and it is free!! Why so much of it is online in chat rooms? You don't really know the person on the other end of the line and she doesn't know you.
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Somehow this breaks down the barriers of normal, respectable behaviour. You won't find any lasting relationships in a chat room.
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You're lucky if you're not actually chatting with a criminal, pervert or someone old enough to be your son or father.
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Have fun with it, but don't take it seriously. If you get sick of the dirty talk, get out. There are any number of chatrooms where people have clean, decent conversation. Ask your friends where they chat and go there.