My divorcee 'friend' is giving me the cold shoulder

Dear Diana,
I've known him for seven months. We work together and are close (or so I thought). We go out often and I've even met his mom and we bonded. He is going through a bad divorce (no kids) and it's au00a0 tough time for him. He has been gone a week (visiting family). He said he wanted me to come, and that he'd call me. He didn't. I finally broke down and sent him a text five days later. His reply was like a weather forecast. We're friends and have shared intimate moments and I love him. I want more from him. He's flirtatious and I think he wants to date other women after his divorce. I love his companionship, but am hurt that he hasn't bothered to call or text me. It's his birthday today and I have sent him two texts; there's no response!u00a0 I feel like an idiot for feeling so depressed and empty inside. I can feel my heart breaking. I don't know what to do anymore.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
He's your friend, so it should be easy to talk to him. Tell him how you feel. I think the problem is: you both want different things in life right now.u00a0 You have feelings for him, while he doesn't seem to be that much into you. Also consider he is just getting out of a painful divorce, he obviously wouldn't want to get into anything right now. Which is fair. What you need to know is IF there is a chance he could feel the same way about you a year later or so. You cannot wait for him, if he just considers you a friend.u00a0 He will be single again, and he will eventually look to bring another person into his life. As a friend always care for him and try your best to be with him in his problems. Also he might be busy with his family on his birthday, which is why he hasn't replied to your texts. If nothing else, you can still be friends, once you put your romantic feelings aside.

Is this love?

Dear Diana,
I am a 18-year-old girl. I went on a date with a boy who I have known for a really long time, yesterday. We went to see a movie and he kept kissing my forehead and back of my hand. I amu00a0 guessing this is good but he still hasn't said he loves me. Does this mean he loves me?

Bonnie
Dear Bonnie,
Your boyfriend kissing your forehead and the back of your hand is like the best thing ever. But you can't call it love. He may just need to touch you and show affection or he may be working up in a gentlemanly way to get physically closer to you. Don't overthink it. I would love to think that it is an old fashioned way of showing you he cares but you never know.

I am afraid to tell him how I really feel...

Dear Diana,
A guy I have worked with for the past year told me that he liked me and he thought Iu00a0 was his soulmate. The problem is that he is engaged to be married to another woman. I have very strong feelings for him. I want to tell him not to marry her! I am 33 years old and he is only 20. He has been with his girlfriend for 5 years, I want to tell him how I really feel, but I'm afraid to. What do you think I should do?

Fiona
Dear Fiona,
Tricky situation indeed. I think you have taken his statement rather seriously. I believe he didn't mean it in the vein you seem to have taken it in. This is a young man who is just about to marry the love of his life and I don't think he is interested in you. My advice would be to try and get over your feelings for him. Do not let him know how you feel about him. It will complicate matters.