My girlfriend is two-timing me. Should I let go?

Dear Diana,
I am a 24-year-old going around with a girl who is 19. I don't trust my girl. I feel she is two-timing me. She carries two cell phones and speaks to one person till midnight everyday.
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I have caught her red-handed many a time. We share an intimate relationship but I can't trust her. She meets that guy on Sundays and when I question she tells me that he is her cousin.

She has a relationship with other two guys I know. I am a Muslim and she is a Hindu. But she says she loves me and not my religion. I am fed-up of her. What do I do?

Shahnawaz
Dear Shahnawaz,
I don't know what you are doing with this girl since you obviously don't trust her. Where there is no trust, there is no relationship.

You seem to know that she is seeing other guys, you've also caught her red-handed many times, so what are you waiting around for?
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Further humiliation? It's almost like you know what you have to do, but you want someone to tell you that it's okay to do it.
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So here is the verdict: it's time to end this relationship. Don't fall for the emotional blackmail that is sure to follow.

Once you've decided that you are fed up and you want out, don't change your decision. She might offer you explanations.

Hear her out and tell her that it won't work anymore because you don't trust her. Wish her all the best in life and move on with yours. Some relationships are just not meant to be.

They want me to get married ASAP!

Dear Diana,
I am a 28-year-old woman. I come from a happy family. I am content with my job. The only problem is that I don't want to get married.

However, my parents believe that in the latter years of life, everyone needs a partner. They don't want me to be lonely and therefore often urge me to get married.

Also, I am a sociable kind of person so they feel that I will surely get great proposals. Till now, they have been accommodating. But now they are pushing me to get married.
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They are willing to settle for my choice too. Should I leave my beliefs for their sake?

Nija
Dear Nija,
Consider what your parents are saying but do what you want to do. Think hard about why you don't want to get married. Then think about your life 15-20 years from now. Your parents might not be around. Your siblingsu00a0 will be busy with their lives and your friends will all have grown-up kids.

In a time like that, would you still be happy or crave companionship? Your parents are right, it is in the latter half of our lives that we really need a companion.

But if you are pretty sure that you will be happy on your own and won't miss having that special somebody around, then by all means, stay single. Don't get married just to please your parents. You should want to get married, only then will you be able to make it work.