She doesn't love me and me alone. Kill myself?

My girlfriend has been lying to me all this time. She has been seeing other guys behind my back all the while that we were together.

She doesn't love me and me alone. Kill myself?

Dear Diana,

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My girlfriend has been lying to me all this time. She has been seeing other guys behind my back all the while that we were together. She used to get very jealous if I so much as looked in the direction of another girl. When I recently learnt that she was a big cheat, I refused to believe it and even told everyone claiming that it was the truth that they were a bunch of liars. I confronted her eventually and asked her if she was cheating on me. She tried convincing me that she wasn't. I told her that I'd commit suicide if I ever found out that I wasn't her one and only because I really, really love her a lot. I don't think she takes me seriously. It's high time that she did!

Mohit

Dear Mohit,
I think that it could pose a serious problem if you refuse to accept that some people are 'like that only'. Of course, that would be a characteru00a0 judgment on my part and I don't want to do that. So this time around, give her the benefit of doubt. And please, get this into your head you killing yourself off will not benefit anyoneu00a0 but her (if she is guilty of the charges you're levelling against her.

Why didn't my bro tell me?

Dear Diana,
I have been under the impression that my brother was dating a girl we both knew since school. I recently met up with her, only to learn that they had broken up four months ago. My brother and I are quite close. Why did he keep this a secret from me?

Juhi

Dear Juhi,
There are some things guys cannot bring themselves to tell family members. It probably could have something to do witha misplaced sense of ego, or possibly, that he simply forgot. It could be a slight, but it could drive a wedge between the two of you if he doesn't come clean soon enough.

Too soon?

Dear Diana,
I am 24, a banker and single. I broke up with my last girlfriend a few months back and she went on to have a relationship with another guy soon enough. I moved on too, got over her, and tried looking for love, or companionship from girls I knew and befriended, but it didn't work out. I'm sure I'm doing the right things (I have been in a relationship after all). Is it too soon after a failed relationship?

Ritesh

Dear Ritesh,
It depends what you shared while it lasted. If it was expendable, there was probably nothing to salvage (in her case). Maybe, you invested more in the relationship than she did. Not to say that you didn't try. Maybe, the girls you met (and befriended) found nothing in common and decided not to venture into anything more complicated than a friendship. Too soon? Could be you trying to get over her, but that is something only you'd really know.