18 February,2010 09:46 AM IST | | Diana
Dear Diana,
I've been dating this one girl for about two years now. She's a complete opposite (to me). We broke up six months back because she lied about being in touch with all her exes. She even slept at her ex's place when he came down. I gave her one last chance... weu00a0 patched up.
She never told those close to her that we were together again. My family thinks we are but she still takes me for granted. She never listens, smokes drinks, hangs out late with friends and is still in touch with her exes. When with family and I call, she behaves like she speaking to a total stranger. All she says is that she never cheated on me. I can't trust her anymore.
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Dear Friend,
Dishonesty in any relationship is bad and is best avoided. Especially when it involves one's past. She has been dishonest on more than one occasion and you have given her several chances to regain your trust. If she smokes or drinks, it's a personal choice.
You can advise your significant other, but cannot impose your own values on them. If she treats you like a complete stranger around friends and family, she obviously has commitment issues and is in this relationship on the sly. Technically, she may not have cheated on you by simply being around her exes but she is being dishonest about it by denying it when you know it to be true. Part ways if it isn't working out for you rather than wonder when things will improve. They won't.
I ejaculate within a minute
Dear Diana,
I'm a 20-year-old guy. My problem is, whenever I masturbate or have sex with my GF, I ejaculate within a minute. Can this be treated? Will it be a problem?
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
It can be treated. Visit an andrologist and get a thorough check-up. The premature ejaculation could be caused by one reason or several. It's just a matter of figuring it out. Alternatively, get into foreplay before the actual act of sex.
Only money on my mind
Dear Diana,
I have a good friends circle around me but the thought of earning more and more money is taking me away from my friends and my family. I get very angry nowadays. I'm financially stable but want to earn more... Is this normal? I want to change my attitude towards life. I want to be happy. I want to enjoy my life. I'm just 22. Competition is hurting me...
Shek
Dear Shek,
Love for money (and not money, by itself) is the root of all evil (and the problems, thereof). You're never content with what you have and even what you make and that is what drives you away from family and friends. You never find the time for them because you're too engrossed in making more money. If you want to be happy, just believe that you are and you will be.
Be content with what you have. I know it's easy to give advice and say that you have to. But understand that unless you bring some order into your life by yourself, you will never really feel the need to. People can advise you all you want them to, but unlessu00a0you want to change, you will not!
