Two years on, the chemistry between us is gone...

Dear Diana,
I've been with this guy for the last two years. But now I am bored of him. I had an emotional affair for four months with another guy, but ended it when I decided to stay loyal to my boyfriend. I've tried to rekindle the romance, by planning a holiday together, special dates and activities, but the spark is gone. We are compatible, but the chemistry has gone. I don't miss him like I used to. I have no desire to spend time with him anymore. I still care for him, and I want this to work. Should I keep trying? Or is it time to give up? Please advise.

Sonu
Dear Sonu,
You should be with guy because you want to, it should not be for any other reason. Besides it's not fair to him. I think you should tell him how you feel, and then move on. Maybe you have changed over the last two years, and want something else now. People do grow out of relationships, it best to leave in such a case. Also, you have to accept that relationships change and mature over years. Don't expect butterflies in your stomach and the tingling in your toes all the time. Be realistic in your expectations. Otherwise you will be looking for a new relationship every two years.



She wants to wait...

Dear Diana,
I am 22 year old guy. I've been dating this girl for a year now. And I brought up sex. She says she wants to wait till marriage and insists on that. But I like the idea of having sex. Sex and Love for me goes hand-in-hand. One package. One whole deal. I don't want to force it upon her or anything..But. What should I do? Is this a deal breaker because we don't have the same sex drive? We're both virgins. Please advise.

Name withheld
Dear Friend,
She wants to wait for marriage. That's very admirable. If you don't want too, that's your choice. But you shouldn't try to convince her to do what you want. I'm sure you will find another girl who is willing to have sex. And if you just can't do it with another girl, and it has to be her because you truly love her, then you would wait. If sex and love goes hand-in-hand, then start loving your hand. Trust me, you will be doing yourself more good that way.

My guy's a player!

Dear Diana,
I am in love with this boy and he claims he loves me back but he is the player type and think he says this to any girl he trying to get with at the moment. He say he has liked me for 3 years but still don't know whether to believe him or not. Any advice?

Name withheld
Dear Friend,
You should maybe believe him if he has been wooing you for three years. But then, a player is a player they're only in this for their own benefit. He's more than likely using the same tired lines he's used on every other girl before you and will use on every girl that comes after you. Be very cautious. I would say play it by the ear and take it slow.. After all even players settle down some day.. Maybe he is ready.