Dr love with Mid-Day: She feels I don’t like her very much!

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I recently met someone online and went on a few dates. After we met three times, she said it wasn't working out because she thought I wasn't actively pursuing her. I was surprised because I thought things were going well between us, so I asked if she wanted me to be more direct. She said she just got the feeling that I didn't like her as much as she expected me to. I didn't know how to react so I didn't say anything, but I really like her and believe we could have tried getting into a relationship if she would just meet me again and give me a chance to behave in a different manner. Should I call her and ask again?
You can try meeting again if she is willing, but that is her prerogative. This is also a sign that there has been some miscommunication or inability to connect, which needs to be addressed. If she agrees to meet, but can't understand your point of view, there is no possibility of a relationship because you have different approaches to communication. If she doesn't respond, you will have to accept that this isn't going to happen and move on. If you believe you acted with the best intentions, don't be too hard on yourself because you can't take responsibility for misplaced expectations.

How do I confront my boyfriend and ask about some missing money? I believe he is stealing from me, but I don't have proof and he may break up with me if I ask him directly.
If you have no proof, this is a risky thing to accuse someone of. However, if you have a strong relationship, you should be able to bring it up without any accusations. Think about the circumstances, try and articulate why you believe he is the one behind this missing money, and have a conversation even if it's a difficult one. Also remember that if you can't trust this person, there is no future for this relationship either way.

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