Good friends are like an orgasm

Jealousy, insecurity and a daunting attitude could turn your best friends into enemies. iTALK goes hunting for giveaways to help you tell a friend from a frenemy

Good friends are like an orgasm

Jealousy, insecurity and a daunting attitude could turn your best friends into enemies. iTALK goes hunting for giveaways to help you tell a friend from a frenemy

It's your friends who can lift your mood,u00a0 help you cough up a chuckle depsite surviving a painful day at work.

But it gets tricky when you have an enemy around you in the guise of a friend. A frenemy is a tough one to crack. Frenemies or enemies who poses as best friends, are examined in detail by authors Andrea Lavinthal and Jessica Rozler in their new book Friend Or Frenemy? it takes on the gruesome trend of girl-on-girl nastiness.

They insist that in today's competitive times, when women are career-oriented, men hardly reliable and marriages are on stake, a girlfriend is a must. But, how do make sure he/she is worthy of your trust? We help you find out.

How can I spot a FRENEMY?
>>A frenemy doesn't want you to succeed, but loves it when you fail at relationships, dressing up or career.u00a0
>>He/she is the kind of person who, while affecting deep concern, is the master/mistress of undermining.
>>He/she can never quite adjust with your circumstances.
>>Notice the kind and quality of reciprocated greetings.
>>Have you seen him/her bickering a lot? You may be on the goss list, too.
>>Beware of manipulative or overtly sweet individuals.

Book to buy
Good friends are like orgasms, sayu00a0 authors Andrea Lavinthal and Jessica Rozler of Friend or Frenemy?u00a0

Excerpts from the book:
>>These days, nothing is quite the same. You've got yourself 1,214 friends on Facebook, five of whom you've actually met in person. With the click of a mouse, you can befriend and break up, hook up and make up, all without having to leave the warm glow of your computer screen and do something unthinkable like interact with a real, live human being.
>>Good friends are like orgasms you're lucky enough to have one and really lucky if you have multiple ones.

Curb Frenemies from gatecrashing your life
Samir Parikh, Psychiatrist at Max HealthCare
1. Interact with like-minded people.
2. Learn to be self-reliant.
3. Help your friends as much as you can.
4. Avoid fostering feelings of jealousy if you work in the same industry as your friend.
5. Don't make gossiping a habit.

If women are bi*ches, men can be dogs: beware of the male frenemy
Dr Aruna Broota, Clinical psychologist
Friendship is risky business in today's competitive world, says clinical psychologist Dr Aruna Broota. "Friendship is not at a premium these days. People make and break friendships easily." But, a bitter confrontation with a dishonest friend is not the answer. "Continue to be polite and courteous. Just stop sharing your secrets. Pour your heart out, express your hurt, ask for explanations. They might have their own reasons," she advises.

Frenemies are often from the opposite sex, Broota warns. "If women are believed to be bi*ches, men can be dogs."

Good friends are like orgasms you're lucky enough to have one and really lucky if you have multiple ones

Have friends in the same profession? Take advice from two Bollywood BFFs: Tanushree Dutta and Koena Mitra
A competitive or jealous attitude has never come in the way of this duo's friendship. Koena thinks Tanushree is a composed person, and the two have the much-needed understanding to keep professional problems
at bay.
Koena dishes out 3 tips to steer clear of frenemies:u00a0
>>Be yourself.
>>Maintain absolute transparency in your relationship, so that your positive and negative traits are exposed, and your pal can accept or reject you as per his/her wish.
>>Trust and honesty form the backbone of any bond.