I want to stay in Mumbai, but my wife doesn't

Jun 26, 2012, 07:31 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana, I am a 37-year-old guy who recently relocated to India after spending more than a decade in Canada. I had moved to Toronto after my marriage

Along with my wife and five-year-old son, I am back in my hometown Mumbai. Even though she was born and bred here, my wife doesn’t like it here one bit. She is forcing me to go back. She feels this is not the right place for our son to grow up. I don’t know how to convince her that we are better off here with our families around us. She is repelled by the noise and smells and is missing Toronto.
— Neev

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Dear Neev,
Good heavens! Your wife was born and bred in Mumbai. All these years she did not find things repulsive. Now suddenly she hates it here. Just because she lived in Toronto for a few years, she has distanced herself from the city. That’s really strange. Here she has to contend with your folks as well as hers. In Toronto, she was alone and could be on her own trip. Stench and noise is just an excuse. Your child is better off growing up here with grandparents and other family members around rather than live a solitary existence overseas. You need to knock sense into your wife’s head of the advantages of living here. Moreover she should have raised an alarm before relocating, now it is too late. And going back to Canada won’t be easy considering that you have folded up everything there and returned. 

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