First, she's okay with my vices, now she's not!

First, she's okay with my vices, now she's not!

Dear Diana,

I am a 40-year-old unmarried man. My cousin sister forwarded a proposal of a friend on a matrimonial site. Her age is 42.u00a0 She has also seen my profile on a matrimonial site. We met and at first meetjng itself, we spoke quite freely. I even told her about my smoking and occasional drinking habit. At the time, she accepted me as I was. At our second meeting, she started emotionally blackmailing me to quit smoking. I am not justifying my habits but at 40 it isn't easy for me to quit or reduce the intake drastically. I am not a heavy drinker, too.u00a0 At our first meeting, I told her I usually drink twice to thrice a day and that I enjoy it. I told her I'd allow her to continue her hobbies and activities in return. I met her parents, they also hinted that I drink only occasionally. My parents are forcing me to go ahead with the marriage. But I am afraid she might fuss about it later. Why can't she allow me some freedom if I can accord her that?