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I miss my friend who kissed me on the forehead!

Dear Diana,
I'm 24, cute, talkative and friendly. I'm very straightforward. I don't like cheaters flirts who think girls are only for timepass. I recently met my boss' son. He's two years younger but we're good friends.

He ignores me at the workplace, thinking that it would be wrong to hang around during office hours. One day I called him after office hours.

We spoke and he told me he was upset with his parents because they found out about his girlfriend.
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Which is why he's a bit wary about telling his folks that he is friends with me. he has now stopped communicating with me altogether and I think I know why.

He dropped me to office one day and kissed me on the forehead.

The next day, I called him up and he asked me if I felt bad that he had been so forward. I retorted that it was common between friends and so, it was no big deal.

He stopped calling or messaging after that. What did I do wrong? I don't wanna stop being friends with him, though. I really miss him!

Meghna
Dear Meghna,
Okay, so you have some pretty strong ideas about how to deal with the opposite sex. Especially if you're dating them.

So why all the fuss over a guy you aren't even seeing. You're, by your own definition, just friends. For whatever reason, he has chosen to stay aloof after the kiss on the forehead.

As you rightly mentioned, it is common between close friends to express their affection in such a manner, so it really shouldn't have put him off.

If you felt bad, you would have told him so. In your own words, you are straightforward and say things as you see them.

Leaves me wondering: he kissed you on the forehead within days of meeting you and you're just a friend.
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Shouldn't his girlfriend be more worried? Also, a guy who cannot tell his parents he loves a girl is a coward; nothing less!

I am 18 and lover-less!

Dear Diana,
I'm 18, smart and good looking. But am still without a lover. It was all good until I turned 17. Now, I see my friends with their girlfriends and feel awkward and jealous. Also, I'm 5'3". Could that be a reason that I cannot find anyone?

Abhilash
Dear Abhilash,
When you're looking for love, simply looks don't get youu00a0 a foot in the dating door. It could be your attitude towards the whole exercise.

You believe that one of the things keeping girls/lovers from you is the fact that you think you're vertically challenged.

Are you trying to tell me girls your height aren't interested in you as well. If so, isn't it time for introspection?

Can't juggle both spiritual and material worlds

Dear Diana,
I'm 30 and am scared of getting married because I find many reasons against and few for it.

I have studied spirituality which, by the way, is quite the fashion these days and feel that getting married comes in conflict with living in the material world.

Also, I cannot commit suicide and so, feel that the world should come to end like it is shown in the 2012 movie. Neither is the spiritual life easy nor is the material life. How do I have an easy life?

Rajeev
Dear Rajeev,
Seems to me you're scared. Seems to me that you do not really want to get married. That you've already made up your mind not to.

I'm friends with a lot of people who are deeply spiritual and are married as well. I don't ever hear them bring that conflict up.

The very fact that you bring suicide up as a way out of the conflict, shows that you have no stomach for a fight.

Life is full of those. And if a metaphysical one freaks you out, what about the ones that are physical or mental? Life's never easy.
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If you think the end of the world will prevent your suicide, you've got issues that need to be addressed by a trained psychologist.

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