She loves me, she loves me not... I am confused!

Dear Diana,
I recently became interested in a woman. We were co-workers in the same company. Last year, I transferred to a different division.

After my transfer, we were in touch about work and I began to develop feelings for her. It grew more intense over time. She also seemed to be friendlier.

After a meeting, I asked her out to lunch and she said yes. But when I called, she did not return the call.
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A week later, I asked her to join me in a presentation at my office, and she attended and was very helpful. Two months ago, she left the agency and invited me for her farewell party.

At the party, she suggested that we get together after she started her new job. Three weeks ago, I called her at her new office and we talked.


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I asked her if she wanted to get together after work and she said yes but would get back to me about the suitable day. She hasn't called since.

I am getting mixed signals from her. She does have a boyfriend. Is this just a friendship thing? I need feedback.
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Dear Friend,

It's hard to tell with 100 per cent certainty what's happening, but from what you say, it does sound like any feelings your former co-worker has for you are strictly platonic and/or professional.

My guess is that since you were enamoured of this person, you projected those feelings of warmth onto her, which is why the relationship seemed to intensify.

An objective look at the facts -- you've approached her, she hasn't reciprocated, she has a boyfriend, she hasn't expressed any interest in you beyond a friendly work relationship -- says that she's being polite and friendly.

My guess is that by just not following through, she's trying to gently send a message that she's not interested.

My feelings are not brotherly at all...

Dear Diana,
I'm 16 and in love. I know I am young but that is not the problem. I've loved her since I was 10 years old. We're really close friends now. She sees me as a brother, but I see her as the love of my life. What should I do?

Brij
Dear Brij,
You say that she doesn't return your feelings. That's going to start to hurt, if it doesn't already. Wanting her and longing for her -- as you've already seen -- doesn't make her interested in you romantically. This is something you have to accept and move on.

I don't know much about sex...

Dear Diana,
I am 19. I have been with this guy for over eight months. I know that he loves me. And I love him too. We haven't had sex yet. He has been in relationships before and is experienced.

I am a virgin. Recently my boyfriend asked me if I wanted to lose my virginity to him and I said I'm not sure. I said that even though I am actually ready, because I don't know what I am supposed to do before and during the act.

What should I tell him? And I am also worried that if I say no, he might not want to be with me anymore.

Bina
Dear Bina,
I really think you should wait. When you get older, you will have a better understanding of sex and will be able to handle it better.

Virginity is not something you can take back and losing it to the wrong person can be scary. You have lots of time for sex later, why start now?

You need to just date your bf for a while and see how things develop. To give your virginity to a guy means you trust him and feel for him.
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When you have these secure feelings, you will natuarally want to let him make love to you. Just say you are not ready yet and see what his reaction is.
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If he walks away, then you will know for sure what he actually thinks of you. Give someone your virginity when you are ready.