They say the computer is my 'dil ka tukda'. Grrrr...

Dear Diana,
I am a 15-year-old girl. Lately, there have been many fights in my family, and invariably, I am blamed for them. My obsession with the computer is a family joke. They provoke me saying the computer is 'sacred' to me. But I don't complain as I am a very calm person. It's only when they say that I'm obsessed with the computer, it makes my blood boil. My brother asked for it rudely and I got angry, due to which my mother made a comment about how it was a 'piece of my heart', which made me furious. I yelled at them, and now both of them are angry at me. My father teases me a lot until I get frustrated and then yell, but mymother then scolds me. It's not fair that I get punished for fights I don't start! If I tell them this, they tell me to take a joke. No matter what, the fight is always my fault!

Tarnia
Dear Tarnai,
It's a molehill, it's a mountain, it's Tarnia's computer problem! Your attachment to the family computer hasn't gone unnoticed and understandably you are at the receiving end of all the family jokes. Laugh with them even if they're laughing at you. Taunts only hurt us if they have any element of truth to them. Having verbal spats with your parents won't help things. They're taking this lightly and you're the one getting worked up by all this. I'm not saying it's your fault, just that you ought to take trivial matters such as these in your stride and let others near the family computer sometimes. It won't harm you to be nice once in a while.

He might poison her mind against me
Dear Diana,
I am a 19-year-old. I met a girl in my class two years older to me. We became good friends. She already has a guy who loves her, but he hasn't proposed to her yet. Now the thing is, she has accepted my proposal. I just fear that guy might try to spoil our relationship by telling her some crap. What shall I tell her so that she stays with me and not him because that guy is her good friend too.

Fred
Dear Fred,
You love her, she loves you. Deal with whatever crap this guy can throw at you later. It's pretty much straightforward if you already have a great thing going with this gal. If she's with you, anything anyone else says about you without evidence, is just talk to her. And I've said this one too many times, and I guess I'll have to say it once again so you get the point. Don't bother about tomorrow. Live in today. Thinking about the future will only make you grey sooner.

I'm afraid my parents might separate us

Dear Diana,
I am 26 and have been married for over a year. My parents stay in Madurai while I stay with my in-laws in Mumbai. Back home, not many know that I have married as I had a court marriage. My parents repeatedly ask me to visit them. But I'm afraid they may separate me from my husband. Truly speaking, my husband loves and cares for me a lot. I know my husband wants to declare our marriage to everyone, but his parents aren't. What to do?